原諒 + 妒嫉? (包括嫉妒自己不喜歡的人的恩典更大)

Deuteronomy 申命記 5:21
No 10 commandment
Neither shalt thou desire thy neighbour's wife, neither shalt thou covet thy neighbour's house, his field, or his manservant, or his maidservant, his ox, or his ass, or any thing that is thy neighbour's.
(see also exodus 2)


prayer of the lord
And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors
免我們所欠的債，如同我們免了人的債


haha, here comes the most important part
Ephesians 以弗所書 (4:2)
With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love
凡事謙虛, 溫柔, 忍耐, 用愛心互相寬容

『寬容』是能擔當別人對我們的虧欠，不計較別人對我們的傷害；惟有『愛心』叫我們能為別人的好處著想，故能寬容。

No 8 commandment：Neither shalt thou steal 不可偷盜

賊子悔改了, 信了主, 以後不再偷及貪別人的東西.
小偷自己沒想到要去"還錢"或同一物品給店主. 店主沒有原諒已悔改的前小偷.

寬恕: 某星期天的崇拜, XX浸信會, 電影"密陽"內容的分享

女主角去監獄寬恕殺了她兒子的殺犯人時, 殺人犯也對女主角說他已信了主, 並得到主的寬恕. 女主角難以接受.


難以接受:
(i) 在我們寬恕得罪我們的人之前, 主已寬恕了他們
(ii) 以為寬恕別人時是我們處於高地, 變相驕傲 (proverbs 6:16-17, these six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him: A proud look...)
(iii) 只看到聖經的教義, 之後從自己好處上說/聽見證, 以為自己有新生. 卻沒有從內心去接觸不利自己的處境.



當我們曾犯錯或得罪別人後, 我們向主認錯, 決志不再犯之後, 其實我們通常都沒有回去那些人向他們賠罪. 所以, 既然我們也沒有這樣做, 也不可要求我們 "要比主先原諒別人, 主之後才可寬恕得罪我們的人".

我們自己沒真正能力去原諒不同的人, 唯有依靠主的能力, 由主給我們真正寬恕的心去原諒不同的人(在不同的情況下).

當看到以前常常刻薄自己的那討厭上司信了主後, 主給他/她莫大恩典 (跳2級升職), 因而自己憤怒/嫉妒起來. i know this part is fairly easy.
(jonah 約拿書第4章, 約拿自己發怒那2段, 尼尼微城 及 蓖麻枯槁)


how about this:
當看到以前的下屬 (尤其是入職比你耐5,6年, 年紀比自己大10年以上)做事每不盡力, 但在dept policies及job description上又沒犯錯, 游走 grey area of dept regulations的下屬, 下屬信了主後, 主給他/她莫大恩典 (lucky money, job promotion, luck property buy/sell profit, improved personal network etc), 因而自己憤怒/嫉妒起來?

假如這個當初每事都針對你的下屬, 現在由她/他來分配一些資源, 她/他先分配較好/多的給friendly colleagues, 少的及剩餘的才給你... 你要嫉妒嗎? 主給了那人更好的恩典!


主給了那人更好的恩典, why?
那是, 主為了彰顯 主 能察覺我們品格上的缺點 (no. 10 commandment), 而藉此機會讓我們去改.


所有以上內容, ephesians都是主修福音, 知易行難.
do i love my ex-managers? yes
do i love my troublesome ex-subordinates? arrrrr..... i will and yes, i love'em
do i love some1 who set me up (office politics) and forced me to resign? wait, i will overcome this. i will pray my lord and help me, i will love that guy more.

at one time u talked to some1 about bible and the grace that god gives u. he laughed u and said bible is a joke.

1 mth later, he believes in god, of coz u dunno whats the exact reasons behind. then later when u two do some swing trades, u won HK$10k with many hardworking nights on charting. he won HK$230k with randomly picking a HSI bull contract.

his grace is much much bigger than u.

my friend, do u understand me?

主教導原諒 (這裡原是在說, 改過得"捨"免)

以西結書 Ezekiel 18:21~23

惡 人 若 回 頭 離 開 所 作 的 一 切 罪 惡 、 謹 守 我 一 切 的 律 例 、 行 正 直 與 合 理 的 事 、 他 必 定 存 活 、 不 致 死 亡 ．
他 所 犯 的 一 切 罪 過 都 不 被 記 念 、 因 所 行 的 義 、 他 必 存 活 。
主 耶 和 華 說 、 惡 人 死 亡 、 豈 是 我 喜 悅 的 麼 ． 不 是 喜 悅 他 回 頭 離 開 所 行 的 道 存 活 麼 。

john 8:3~11

Now the scribes and Pharisees came, with a woman who had been taken in the act of sinning against the married relation;

And putting her forward, they said to him, Master, this woman has been taken in the very act of sinning against the married relation.

Now in the law Moses gave directions that such women were to be stoned; what do you say about it?

They said this, testing him, so that they might have something against him. But Jesus, with his head bent down, made letters on the floor with his finger.

But when they went on with their questions, he got up and said to them, Let him among you who is without sin be the first to send a stone at her.

And again, with bent head, he made letters on the floor.

And when his words came to their ears, they went out one by one, starting with the oldest even to the last, because they were conscious of what was in their hearts: and Jesus was there by himself with the woman before him.

Then Jesus got up, and seeing nobody but the woman, he said to her, Where are the men who said things against you? did no one give a decision against you?

And she said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said, And I do not give a decision against you: go, and never do wrong again.

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“ 察覺自己品格上的缺點 - 妒忌 (no. 10 commandment), 藉此機會讓我去改　”

有次，C君給M君一把雨傘（自己不喜歡，不會使用）但我記住，代表妒忌
有次，M君給N君兩個水果，心裡雖對自己說不在乎，自己都有，吃不下，
但會記住，代表妒忌

罪認了但如何改過? 必須悔過, 否則得不到神的寬恕, 只要真心求悔過, 神必應允;
如何? 以此為鑑戒，像之前戒掉為小事發怒，(未完全戒掉), 有一個痛苦回憶，就不敢再犯，是一種在內心令自己有種羞辱的譴責，另外亦虧損主的榮耀。

要將自己的惡習(兩件事)放在公開的平台上，讓人人及自己看見，作為鑑戒！